One year ago TODAY we launched this blog… so Happy Birthday to our blog, and Happy Anniversary to all of you who share our page! To celebrate with all of you, we thought we would take the week off of advice, and instead pass out virtual party hats and give our views on anniversaries, birthdays, and this blog. We asked each other questions, and here is what we came out of that! Enjoy!!
—LL and Clare
Clare: What is the most important thing about an anniversary or birthday (to you)?
LL: I feel that bday’s, and anniversaries, are great markers in our lives to reflect about where we have been and picture/plan where we are going. I used to think it was all about the birthDAY. All about the anniversary. That was the day, party, or experience I was waiting for. Now, I realize that the days and years leading up to the parties and anniversaries is where the life worth living is. The most important thing about the birthday and anniversary is seeing how far you have come. A birthday or anniversary is a time o remind and review: What is in your life that you want more of and what isn’t rocking your bliss; What do you need to let go of; Are the people celebrating with you the right ones.
LL: What’s your ideal dream celebration for your birthday?
Clare: I LOVE surprises, but I’m TERRIBLE at getting them, because I see variations in patterns and behavior… so unless the person/people doing the surprises are really slick, I usually figure stuff out (and I HATE IT!! I always feel bad when I figure things out, or I’m really cranky at the people who are trying to throw me a surprise, not knowing that they’re working on something wonderful! Thank you to everyone who has ever tried to surprise me!!). I would LOVE to have a surprise dinner all that I love there, lots of yummy (and maybe free food)… and then some silly activity like bowling or mini golf after. (I like to mix my fancy with silly!)
Clare: What is a suggestion you have for people to make an anniversary or birthday celebration the best?
LL: Have it YOUR WAY. Seriously have the celebration you want to have. It’s why I celebrate my birthday with Choose Your Own Adventure Party. I got so tired of throwing parties and inviting people getting excited to see all of the RSVP’s, only to have people flake at the last minute. I didn’t want to reserve/pay for a table for 30 to only have 14 show up. I also realized that celebrating and having fun on my birthday was important to me. That I had to control my controllables. I plan my own birthday my way and do what I want to do and where I want to do it. I invite all of my friends, families and co-workers and the only rule is that they don’t rsvp. Then I get to only see who shows up. All the positives of the parties no disappointments. So, just do what you want to do and don’t worry about entertaining your guests. It’s your Freaking day!!
LL: Are their any special anniversaries you celebrate other than your birthday and why?
Clare: I celebrate my NYC anniversary–as it seems many of us do here. It takes a lot to follow a dream and to stay strong in that dream. “If you can make it here, you can make it anywhere” is such a true statement. I’m actually terrible at anniversaries and remembering other people’s birthdays… so glad technology helps me remember. I LOVE celebrating any friend’s birthday. I’m always happy to make cupcakes!
Clare: Do you have a special thing you do on your birthday or anniversary, like a tradition you like to follow?
LL: Hmm… I said above I don’t do RSVPs; I guess that translates to keeping no expectations, so that way everything is a surprise. I also like to think back on the past ones and reminisce on past memories.
Clare: Did I tell you what I do with birthday cards–because it seems a waste to read them and look at them and then toss them? I stick them into books, cook books, and random nooks in my apartment. Then, later down the line when its NOT my birthday, I run into the birthday wish again! Its like hide-and-seek with birthday cards! And a fun way to revisit those memories.
LL: What birthday or anniversary in your life do you still think about, look back to or remember as something more than just a birthday?
Clare: 7th birthday was when I had to grow up quickly. 30th birthday was when everything seemed to make sense again. I revisit both of those, often.
Clare: What is the best birthday or anniversary gift you were ever given?
LL: Time. Time with me. I honestly tried to think of my favorite birthday gift. I truly do love all the gifts I have been given. I am someone who puts sentimental value on things. So I do love and cherish and keep gifts because of whom they’re from. I like them as the physical representation of the Time. Joining me on something fun, sharing experiences and making memories. Love those gifts the BEST!
Clare: It’s amazing what we remember and what we don’t, isn’t it? I remember giving you a purse you LOVED one year… and you got me a pair of earrings, which were stolen from my suitcase this last year–I’m so sad they’re gone. I think that is part of the reason I make people food for their birthday’s–its always enjoyed and appreciated, and it really doesn’t matter if its remembered!
LL: Speaking of gifts, you have a gift for writing! What is a favorite blog you’ve written and I’ve written. Why? Did it surprise you?
Clare: Thanks, love! You’re great at it, too! Probably, Love Your Skin Now–it felt like a really risky and really, literally, naked piece to write. I’m used to sharing my thoughts and insecurities through my characters on stage, but never my personal ones. I’m so excited that I wrote it and it got such a great response. I cried while writing it.
Clare: Where do you see this blog at our next anniversary?
LL: More blogs each week for our readers and our Book in print!
LL: Thinking forward, is there a birthday or anniversary you’re looking forward to celebrating?
Clare: September 8th this year I hit my 5 years in NYC. I’m also looking forward to my 40th Birthday (which is only a few years away). And this birthday…it’s the same day as the birth of our blog!
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