What was it? What mistake was your greatest? The biggest, best mistake ever?!
As you may know from some previous blogs I am a podcast lover. I really enjoy listening. Mostly I listen to other authors podcasts. I wish I had more time to read but I don’t… so, I listen to their podcasts and then if I find myself say YAAS!!! High fiving the air, I buy their books.
On a recent podcast I heard the interviewer ask the author: what was your greatest mistake? What was you best mistake? As someone who lives without regrets I have to admit I was caught off guard. I didn’t understand why anyone would want to think of their lives and highlighting mistakes. But, then I got to thinking about all of my “mistakes.” I thought about the stupid boys I dated. The jobs I have had. Not saying yes to some experience, or saying no to someone. Then I thought about where I am today. I realized I had some great mistakes. I have had some of the best mistakes ever–I am so happy I have had them.
Let me explain, I believe everything happens for a reason. Not that anyone of us deserves bad things to happen, but that sometimes things that feel bad, seem bad, or just are bad are part of our path to greatness.
When I left my ex, it sucked. I felt terrible for hurting him. I struggled financially, emotionally. I questioned for a bit whether or not it was the right decision. In the healing process I thought about the “Red Flags” of our relationship. I didn’t want to repeat my past. I realized that had I said no to one of the dates in the beginning, had I dated others had I stopped things when my gut said to. We probably wouldn’t have made it 5 years. We wouldn’t have probably made it past a few months.
But, if I hadn’t dated him I would not have learned what I know now about myself. I wouldn’t have written my first book most likely. I wouldn’t have known what I need out of a relationship. I wouldn’t have been prepared to meet the man I was meant to marry.
So, one of my greatest mistakes were all the bad dates I went on that got me here today. Had I not had all those I would never have realized true love, true romance, true teamwork and true partnership. Who would think that thousands of bad dates, and a perfect-on-paper relationship would lead to a happy marriage to someone else, a book, and many other successes, including this blog?!?
You may be sitting here, reading this and saying “Lesley! I am in a huge issue now. This could be the biggest mistake of my life. It doesn’t feel good. ” Like I said before, it didn’t feel good after all the bad dates. I truly wish I could go back to my twenty something self and tell her “this is going to suck at the end. But there will be a pot of partnership gold at then end of the storm.” Oh, how I wish! Sadly, readers, we don’t get that. We can’t take our future selves to our present selves and tell them “Everything will be ok.”
We can trust, though. Trust ourselves. Trust the Universe. Today prepares us for tomorrow, next year and fifty plus years from now. If you are feeling like you are in the worst mistake ever and you don’t know what to do. Here are some tips for you:
- Don’t make any decisions right away. Get your breath back to normal.
- Tell yourself how much you Love yourself, trust yourself and want and deserve nothing but the best for yourself.
- Remind yourself you are being molded for the future. You are growing. Growth spurts don’t feel great while they are happening. But when you’re “taller” you can see the bigger picture.
- Journal. Write and write and write. The first half will be your brain the second half will be God.
- Get grounded! Lay on the ground. Put heavy blankets on top of you. Eat heavy foods (yes, I am saying to eat heavy foods) warm and heavy foods. Drink hot fluids. You need to feel whole and warm and soothed.
- Just Keep Swimming. It’ll all make sense one day. That day isn’t today. Lucky you, you don’t have to have the answers now.
This brings me back to the beginning, what was your greatest, best mistake? Share them with us and our readers. The beauty about life is we are not alone. Your story can help so many others grow!
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