I cannot tell you how frustrated it makes me when and obstacle gets in my way. You know what I mean. You are your journey. Your way to work or just trying to tackle your errands. The car in front of you is going to slow. The trains are not running (I’ve heard this is an issue where trains are…). To do task A you have to do a new task. A boomerang task presents itself. It can feel like you’re on an uphill battle with rollerskates on.
Well, tie those laces tight, grab what ever tools you can and climb that mountain! Seriously, where there is adversity, there is a way for you to come out stronger and at the finish line designed just for you.
Scratching your head? Think I’m crazy? Yeah, I know it sounds crazy. Why oh why should you think that pounding on a wall will create a door? Simple, if the path is paved then it’s great for site seeing, understanding and learning but it’s not the path to your success. It’s the path to someone else’s.
I have felt that I often “landed” where I am. That I lept and a net caught me. The truth is I went to College where I did, because a roadblock to Hawaii presented itself. I literally had no other choices. It was go to the private University my friend suggested or stay local and go to junior college. Because I grew up not wanting to be the star of Credence Clearwater Revival’s music hit. I took out massive loans and got the heck out of Lodi.
While in College I needed a job. 9/11 happened the day I was supposed to go and apply for jobs. No one was hiring in the weeks that followed. Then it was holidays and again roadblocks. I couldn’t get a seasonal job as I went home for the holidays. So, I had to wait until January to get a job. I lived off my savings and as soon as school was back I was out applying for jobs. I dropped off 15 applications one of them was put in the hands of our own dear Clare. I got one call. One interview. Those 14 applications, those little roadblocks where directing me in the path that the only job offer I received was the only job I was to receive.
That job introduced me to my dear best friend Clare. I worked my way up in the company and became the manager. I hired an assistant manager who introduced me to pilates. That job took me through college and all the way to LA. Pilates in LA introduced me to Raine, LuluLemon where I was an ambassador. Being a Pilates instructor took me to Boulder, CO where because I was an ambassador I was introduced to Devon. Devon introduced me to my Husband. Who knew that first seemingly devastating roadblock would actually put me on the path to my absolute partner in crime.
Think about the last “No” you got. The last time something didn’t go your way. Then think about what happened because of it. Was it really as bad as you thought?
It sucked to not live in Hawaii. It felt bad that not one other store wanted me a very experienced 18 year old to work for them. But, in the near future awesome things happened. College in So Cal was amazing. My best friend Steph and I would never have met. My dear professor Karen and now great friend was an amazing gift. It was pretty easy to forget the roadblock once I took control of my options.
So, how can you see the positive in a roadblock? How can you take on the uphill battle with a smile on your face? Well, here’s my tips for loving the things in your way:
- Take the roadblock in! Sure, you’re going to want to push, scream, cry, yell and cuss like crazy. Do it. Then accept the roadblock. Give it a name. Listen to what it has to tell you.
- Take action with your roadblock. If you feel stuck or just do nothing you’ll feel worse. You’ll feel like the roadblock is on top of you. But, stand up next to your block, hold it’s hand and take those first few steps on the new journey towards your goal.
- Smile and Listen each step along the way. The “detour” can seem long and windy. But, smile and listen for what you’re supposed to learn, take in or take on.
- Look back and download. Don’t look back with your nose held so high you can’t see where you came from. You look back with satisfaction and strength. You made it. What worked? What great things did your roadblock give you? Write them down. Next time you meet a new obstacle will seem easier and you’ll welcome it faster.
So, what roadblocks have you been fighting. Trying to move. Complaining about. What roadblocks can you accept and move forward?
I broke my leg in August of 2014. I was basically sidelined. On crutches. I felt like my world had crashed. Because of my injury I had to get creative. It forced me to make changes in my life. Changes I hadn’t realized I was hoping to make but kept pushing off. After I ditched my crutches I kept those changes. I am so thankful I broke my leg!
Let the obstacles begin!
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