Get IN my way!

I cannot tell you how frustrated it makes me when and obstacle gets in my way. You know what I mean. You are your journey. Your way to work or just trying to tackle your errands. The car in front of you is going to slow. The trains are not running (I’ve heard this is an issue where trains are…). To do task A you have to do a new task. A boomerang task presents itself. It can feel like you’re on an uphill battle with rollerskates on.

Well, tie those laces tight, grab what ever tools you can and climb that mountain! Seriously, where there is adversity, there is a way for you to come out stronger and at the finish line designed just for you.

Scratching your head? Think I’m crazy? Yeah, I know it sounds crazy. Why oh why should you think that pounding on a wall will create a door? Simple, if the path is paved then it’s great for site seeing, understanding and learning but it’s not the path to your success. It’s the path to someone else’s.

I have felt that I often “landed” where I am. That I lept and a net caught me. The truth is I went to College where I did, because a roadblock to Hawaii presented itself. I literally had no other choices. It was go to the private University my friend suggested or stay local and go to junior college. Because I grew up not wanting to be the star of Credence Clearwater Revival’s music hit. I took out massive loans and got the heck out of Lodi.

While in College I needed a job. 9/11 happened the day I was supposed to go and apply for jobs. No one was hiring in the weeks that followed. Then it was holidays and again roadblocks. I couldn’t get a seasonal job as I went home for the holidays. So, I had to wait until January to get a job. I lived off my savings and as soon as school was back I was out applying for jobs. I dropped off 15 applications one of them was put in the hands of our own dear Clare. I got one call. One interview. Those 14 applications, those little roadblocks where directing me in the path that the only job offer I received was the only job I was to receive.

That job introduced me to my dear best friend Clare. I worked my way up in the company and became the manager. I hired an assistant manager who introduced me to pilates. That job took me through college and all the way to LA. Pilates in LA introduced me to Raine, LuluLemon where I was an ambassador. Being a Pilates instructor took me to Boulder, CO where because I was an ambassador I was introduced to Devon. Devon introduced me to my Husband. Who knew that first seemingly devastating roadblock would actually put me on the path to my absolute partner in crime.

Think about the last “No” you got. The last time something didn’t go your way. Then think about what happened because of it. Was it really as bad as you thought?

It sucked to not live in Hawaii. It felt bad that not one other store wanted me a very experienced 18 year old to work for them. But, in the near future awesome things happened. College in So Cal was amazing. My best friend Steph and I would never have met. My dear professor Karen and now great friend was an amazing gift. It was pretty easy to forget the roadblock once I took control of my options.

So, how can you see the positive in a roadblock? How can you take on the uphill battle with a smile on your face? Well, here’s my tips for loving the things in your way:

  1. Take the roadblock in! Sure, you’re going to want to push, scream, cry, yell and cuss like crazy. Do it. Then accept the roadblock. Give it a name. Listen to what it has to tell you.
  2. Take action with your roadblock. If you feel stuck or just do nothing you’ll feel worse. You’ll feel like the roadblock is on top of you. But, stand up next to your block, hold it’s hand and take those first few steps on the new journey towards your goal.
  3. Smile and Listen each step along the way. The “detour” can seem long and windy. But, smile and listen for what you’re supposed to learn, take in or take on.
  4. Look back and download. Don’t look back with your nose held so high you can’t see where you came from. You look back with satisfaction and strength. You made it. What worked? What great things did your roadblock give you? Write them down. Next time you meet a new obstacle will seem easier and you’ll welcome it faster.

So, what roadblocks have you been fighting. Trying to move. Complaining about. What roadblocks can you accept and move forward?

I broke my leg in August of 2014. I was basically sidelined. On crutches. I felt like my world had crashed. Because of my injury I had to get creative. It forced me to make changes in my life. Changes I hadn’t realized I was hoping to make but kept pushing off. After I ditched my crutches I kept those changes. I am so thankful I broke my leg!

Let the obstacles begin!

xx~LL

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5 steps to getting out of your own way

Recently, I was coaching a couple of studio managers.   They had complaints about their schedule; their teachers; their lives. They just didn’t feel they had enough time in the day to get things done. They felt they needed more help. Or, they were fearful that the job they have taken on cannot be done in the hours they have allotted.  Whether or not their complaints are valid or true,  doesn’t actually matter. Not that I am saying I don’t think complaints matter, or they their complaints don’t matter. Just that honestly, no job is perfect. Nobody is perfect, and no boss is perfect. Even if you work for yourself there are going to be people or things that F-up what you are trying to do.

I am going to tell you what I tell everyone who complains about life and work balance. Build your business around your lifestyle not the lifestyle around your business.  If you want to workout in the mornings, but your job is 8-5, you are either going to have to work out super early OR find a job that let’s you workout before work. If you want to be home when your kids are home, you are going to have to find work or create work that allows that. I know it sounds easier to read/say then it is to do. But, honestly, if you take the time to do it, you get to live the life you want to live.  And your job/business supports that.  Which is how it should be.  Your life shouldn’t be supporting your business; your business should be supporting your life.

See, I actually think getting upset or angry at a situation is a good thing. Get it out, say your complaints, write them down. Before you go crying on every persons shoulder that’s available, ask yourself: why are you complaining?  Is it really the co-worker who taps his feet on the wall at the desk next to you? Or is it that you just don’t like what you are doing? I listened to an interview James Altucher, author of Choose Yourself did with Gretchen Rubin…. who wrote The Happiness Project. She said that a women in her blog commented about hating her job and thinking of quitting. Before she did she asked herself some questions and her big complaint about her job was her commute. She hated her commute. Before quitting, she decided to listen to some books on tape during her commute. What happened next? She realized she really liked her job. It was just the drive in and out that drove her nuts. Now with the books on tape she was in heaven. She found herself listening in her driveway after work because she was so engrossed in the book. So, complain away if you must but again before going to friend after friend, co worker after co worker…tissue after tissue, find out why you are upset. What is truly the issue? Once you find the heart of the issue you can work on fixing that. Can you imagine what would have happened to our long commute listener if she had quit her job? She probably would have realized she left a job she loved but it would have been too little too late.

My dearest readers, I will repeat I am so ok with complaints. I listened to the managers above. I let them spend the whole time getting the “problems” off their chest. Then we got to the root of it. They had tried to fit their life, their kids their desires around their work. I challenged them to go home. Take out a blank calendar. Write in their desires first. Then create a work schedule around it. Does that mean major changes in their life? Maybe. Some clients may have to switch time slots or teachers. They may lose clients due to their new schedule and have to find clients to fit this new schedule. But, a few weeks from now when all that is put in place, they will be able to have their cake and eat it too. Will life be “happily ever after?” Can’t answer that, but I can promise that if they were honest with themselves when creating this new schedule even the bad stuff won’t seem so bad because they are living the lifestyle they desired.

Here’s how you can life your lifestyle:

1) What do you wish you had time to do each day, week, month?

2) Take out a blank weekly calendar

3) sharpie in the things you want time for each day, week, month

4) Put your work schedule in. Where their are overlaps ask yourself: “Can I move this work schedule to a different day, earlier or later?

5) If you can’t get your work schedule to jive with your hearts desires then you may have to search for another work option. Seek out something that will jive.  Don’t go quitting tomorrow but maybe you can begin to create your own business that allows for this. It will probably take time but a year from now you’ll be glad you started today.

So, tell me. What complaints do you keep repeating? Are you avoiding living the life you want to live so that you can continue to complain? Share your stories with us. Let us help you build your business around your desires.

xx~LL

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