Goals #26 Lesley 2016

Wow, last week flew by! The combo of a Holiday Monday and extra exciting news kept me busier than ever. During these buys weeks I am so glad I have reminders and my goals where I can see them.

Health: I am a few weeks out of another test to figure out what is happening. So, I am sticking to my no sugar diet and most of the time life is pretty good. I am excited for the end of the month to hopefully get results that will allow me to finally cross this stomach thing off my list!

My workouts and training for the work are going great. I have them all sharpie’d in each week. I have never felt so strong in my life!

Personal: Brad and I took the last weekend to be with each other and our dogs. Our puppy Bayon is so well trained for a 4 month old. This week my Mother is visiting and so we are doing extra extra stuff this week so we can enjoy her visit.

Financial: Money in and Money out. But, Bills mean business. So, another week of working the plan!

Business: I am launching something big! Fingers crossed it pans out. I’ll keep you posted. My hubby and I also launched our podcast and this week it’s episode 4. When you’re an entrepreneur it’s always about watching the pots and when one boils being ready. Here’s to a few boiling at the same time!

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Why not Fail?

I put out a lot of myself “out there.” I have blogposts for Live ClareLesley and As The Crows Fly (my hubby and I blog, too) For Profitable Pilates, my business I have “notes to inspire” that I send out each week to those who sign up. I rarely hear back from any of the subscribers. I wonder: Did they read them? Did they like it? Hello…is anyone out there?!

Sometimes doubt, or that little negative voice, will get in my head. “What’s the point? Why am I doing this?”  But then I remember a couple things.  One, Clare and I have always tried to remind ourselves that we write our blogs for the joy of doing it.  Two, as Brene Brown likes to say “what would you do whether you failed or not?”

Whether I fail or not? What does that mean?

You’ve probably seen a bumper sticker or heard “what would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?” It’s something people use to help people set goals, find a new journey and get going on their life. But, the truth is even if you thought up what you could do without failing doesn’t mean you won’t.


Does that mean you won’t do that “it” if you could fail? Which makes me wonder why failing is getting such a bad rap?

Failure gives us one very important thing: FEEDBACK.  It tells you what’s working, what’s not working and maybe whether or not you keep going. Failure isn’t a period. It’s not “The End.” It’s simply an outcome. Truth is, failure might not even be a bad thing. Plenty of amazing inventions have come out of failure–Latisse came out of experiments to help baldness. Instead of helping hair grow it made eyelashes and eyebrows grow! So, was that a failure?


I was listening to Happier  a podcast with Gretchen Rubin and her sister. They were talking about wether something was bad or not. How do you know that “bad” thing was a bad thing? Maybe, in 5 years you’ll look back and be glad that “bad” thing happened. What we feel is failing might be the exact thing we need to get to where we are supposed to go!

Doing something because you have to is amazing. Writing a blog, going for a job interview, trying something new because it is inside you and you just have to get it out is worth it. I will continue to write wether anyone reads it or not. I will continue to create and put out what is begging to be created even if I am the only one who enjoys it. I will continue to continue!

  1. Do “it” because you want to: not because you think it will look good or maybe someone will like it. The “likes” are fleeting. Also, just because someone didn’t like, comment or applaud doesn’t mean they didn’t see it or care about it.
  2. Be authentic: if you are doing what makes you the best you, if you are staying on your true north, being your whole awesome self you literally cannot fail.
  3. Keep on Keeping on: once you go for “it” pat yourself on the back and continue your journey. Once you have done something there is another something in you waiting to be created.
  4. Put your blinders on: Often we feel pretty freaking great about ourselves and what we do until we do the comparison thing…remember that everything is not as it seems. Like a horse staying on it’s course, racing towards the finish line puts on his blinders so should we.
  5. Freedom: when it doesn’t matter what the outcome is you can really go for it! You can really leap. You may fall, miss the net but the more you leap the stronger you get at landing.

After writing this blog I received my latest analytics for Profitable Pilates. Just because I felt like I was hearing crickets doesn’t mean there weren’t crowds! My open rates and click rates are incredible as far as what is considered average. So, the reality is success comes in all forms. What feels like failure is simply feedback. What will I do next? Whatever is in me and it won’t matter if it’s a success or not because I simply must do it!

xx~LL

BIG NEWS!

Half of Live ClareLesley was married last weekend!!

CONGRATULATIONS LL!!! 

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I’m sure you’ll see many more of the photos from the wedding in the weeks to come!  It’s rare that LL and I are on the same coast, let alone the same room, so we documented it.  My trip last weekend was amazing.  It was fun to meet some of our west coast readers! (And don’t worry, our LL will still have zany stories and advice to tell from the other side of the wedding march!)

–Clare

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No Waiting Dating 

He broke up with me twice before our first date. Yep, he did. The Man who I call my Love; we have a very interesting dating story.  We share our dating story often. It’s a unique. It’s totally us and  one we also hope inspires others. Someday I’ll share the whole story with you. Today I’m sharing a detail. A tidbit if you will. Something you can take with you and use.

During our transition from “the musician” and “the Pilates instructor” there was a long discussion. Well, to be honest every meeting included long discussions where we talked about our pasts, our wants, needs, desires…lives.  But there was one pivotal conversation that changed everything.  One in which took us apart for about 10 days then brought us together. Closer than ever.

Last week, Clare wrote about being Straightforward when you start dating.  This week I want to talk about moving that relationship forward in a similar way.  My Love and I were at my place on our Thursday night weekly hang. He started the conversation. I sat there and listened.  I learned all the things he liked about me. My dearest readers let me tell you. I love hearing this about me that someone likes or enjoys. However,  It’s not easy to hear things people like about you while they are also ending things with you. I mean picture this scene: My bohemian meets mid century apartment. Chai Latte’s in hand and his loveable PitBull in my lap. Hanging out on the carpet talking about the weeks thoughts. When he announced that he didn’t want to lead me on. Before I could respond he began to list in detail everything about me that he liked. Everything! From how I was a Coach but I didn’t “coach” him, how I didn’t contact him. My “love languages” are ‘touch’ and ‘words of affirmations’. Very similar to his. How he liked that. Since having similar love languages means we can understand how each other communicates love. But…

Another day I’ll tell you what happened after “But.” For now, I want to share with you how I dates.  How I acted and reacted.  What I learned though during this conversation from him I had always believed and coached my clients and friends on:

  1. Do not text, call, FB, tweet etc: if they want you they will call you. If they aren’t that’s your answer.
  2. Do not wait: for those of you sitting there shaking your head at me because someone in your life just isn’t ready. Sure, anything is possible but better for you to go on with your life and if they’re lucky you’ll still be around. But you wait for no one.
  3. Wait for commitment or at least 90 days: trust me! Think about that last time or times you didn’t. Later finding out things you didn’t like about s person. Sex makes you feel things that just are not what a relationship is based upon. Steve Harvey even compares this to jobs. No company gives you benefits without waiting 90 days. Why is it ok that we have to prove ourselves to an employer to earn the benefits but in life we just give them away?
  4. Texting does not a relationship make. My Love would call me all the time before we got together. We rarely texted only. People can copy and paste texts all day long. Conversations are unique.
  5. You’re Amazing. If someone doesn’t see that then let them be on their way.

He and I sat for a couple hours while he told me all the things he liked about me. I sat there. I listened.

Finally after some thought I said “stop liking me so much, it’s freaking you out”. The next day he called me. In that conversation I told him  “I’m amazing, hopefully I’ll still be available when you figure yourself out (I may have said. Sh*t out).  There were other things mentioned that I’ll save for another day (or you can hear from him in a podcast that’s about to air). I gave him things to think about but I never waited. Was I angry? Yes. Was I hurt? Of course, I cared about him. I always had since I met him wanted us to be something someday.  But, I didn’t wait for him before and I certainly wasn’t about to text, call, email spend hours wondering, wishing or hoping. Of course I did in the moment wish and want some things. But, I always lived my life. Followed my bliss. I couldn’t worry during those 9 months between us meeting and getting together what he was thinking. I dated and had fun doing it.

Always remember: It’s your life. When you live your life the way you want, when you love yourself for who you are that will attract the right partner for you.  My dears please do not sit around waiting for the person to call you, text you or be “ready.” No waiting dating.

xx~LL

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