2016 Goals Update #3 Clare

Financial responsibility AND finding a workout routine!

Exercise for purchases!! Worked it out with my Financial Coach today that I need to feel my purchases and not just in my wallet. I was walking by a store that had a knockoff brand that I LOVED 10 years ago. When I didn’t need to be a human turtle and carry everything with me and on my back. Daily. In other words it wasn’t practical. But, I reasoned with myself, it was cheap. I realized two things in this moment:
1) Impulse purchases and low dollar items are what are my downfall.
2) If I attach a physical responsibility to my monetary want, do I still want it? As in, was the bag worth $10 AND 10 push ups. Nope.  My desire to own that goes away.

Ok, I realize this isn’t the complete answer to my work out issue, or to my financial issue, but its maybe a step in the right direction.

Focusing on my relationship with myself:

I haven’t touched on this one yet in my updates–partially because I sort of do it and don’t know I’m doing it.  However, I should report.  It is now a habit to have face time, as in be in the same location with, a friend.

LL and I are picking books for our podcast that are in the personal growth/self-help arena, and I’m focusing on other things in my life that make me stronger as a single person.  So I’ll be a part of a pair, not a half a person until I find someone.

Cleaning and Organizing:

I went through a lot of papers that were just sitting around my room.  I often times open mail, and keep the part that is important and then “refile” it in my room in a pile.  I need to figure out a better way to do this… if you have a good idea on filing papers that I just need to look at in a week or so when I have time to actually read them, and them will toss or actually file them, please leave a comment or email your suggestion to liveclarelesley@gmail.com

 

2016 Goals update #1 Clare

My relationship with money:

Ugh. My friend Grace has offered to be my financial coach for the year. For January I’m writing every purchase and outgoing amount of $$ down. Already I’m a kid who doesn’t want to go to school about this. I’m not liking what I see. Telling myself that Future Clare is very happy to be debt free.

Finding a workout regimine I can stick to:
I went to my friend Michael’s spin class. My first spin class ever. Stay tuned for that blog…I still can’t tell you an answer if I actually liked it or not. It’s not a daily or weekly thing for me.  Maybe monthly.  But I am inspired to try out new classes or workouts that I hadn’t previously thought that I would like.

Publishing my book:
I found a graphics person for my novel cover and set her to work. Still trying to get help through GoFund Me. Have done a lot of research on self publishers.

Overall I’m feeling hopeful and still feeling abuzz about my goals!

 

 

 

2016 Goals Plan–Clare

First, I think that LL is MUCH better at this than I am like I stated in my Goals Blog at the end of last year.  I’m GREAT at seeing something, wanting it, and working to achieve it.  I’m TERRIBLE at looking at things I want to change and keeping up the maintenance.  That being stated, there are SEVERAL things in my life that I’ve been ignoring or waving away for years.

LL inspired me in 2015 with her goals–we do that on occasion, inspire each other–and so here I am with my fresh list (well with my list of a couple of new and a couple of repeats/continuances).

In 2015, I decided to focus on my relationship with myself and to focus on making myself a more complete person, instead of continually dating or trying to date people that just weren’t interesting enough.  This one will continue in 2016.

Also for 2015, I started swimming–I have now moved and am not in walking distance of a pool, but with three different besties who’s jobs are in fitness, living with two dancers, and having several gym bunny friends, its my goal this year to find a continual workout habit–one that I like enough and will do daily or at least the recommended 3-4 times a week (so if you have suggestions, I’m open on this one.)  I want something with little commitment (so no memberships, or high cost), something that is fun or doesn’t feel like exercise–I live RIGHT across the street from Central Park, so I love walking in the park, just not when its 20 degrees outside. I ALREADY walk to the next subway station as a general guideline when I can, and I’m trying to remember to do plies or stretches while making coffee…

Next, I’m publishing my novel this year.  For more info, read my blog on it or the Facebook page!

I’m going to get better at cleaning.  I’m a clean person, but I keep stuff.  I need to be better about organizing the stuff and tossing what no longer serves me.  (I don’t need 8 dingy t-shirts when I have 10 perfectly good ones. I don’t need to keep all receipts, all the time, etc.)  Send me your organizing ideas or write them in the comments!

And now for my big one:  I have a HORRIBLE relationship with money.  HORRIBLE.  Part of it is that I’m in a moment that I’m not living paycheck to paycheck… but I’m spending like I have Park Avenue money… Interestingly enough, I don’t like asking for the amount of money I’m worth–I’m getting better–go read that blog!  But if you have any good money relationship advice, I’ll happily listen.

What are your goals for 2016?

–Clare

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Next time. Tomorrow. Maybe Later. Or, how to stop avoiding your goals!

Here at Live ClareLesley we love goals and lists. That’s actually an understatement. We at Live ClareLesley LIVE for goals, and believe lists help you stay organized.

I have to admit something to you readers. I have some things on my lists that have never left. Haven’t even come close to even doing the first step towards crossing them off. In fact, a couple I thought about crossing off because I didn’t want to look at them anymore and I couldn’t see a time in my future where I would be able to tackle them.

For example, I had on my November to do list “spin class 2x a week to prepare for “Cycle for Survival“. I went one time in November. Put it on the December list….ran 6 days a week but never went to class. In January, I even told my Man “I must go twice a week!”  I had 4 weeks to prepare. I looked at two group classes schedules and never attended. I can’t believe I’m admitting this, one day I even was at the gym, and a class was about to start at 12pm.  BUT I decided to go for a run instead. My February cycling event came around, and wouldn’t you know I had only been two one class in 4 months. Don’t even feel sorry for me…I did it to myself.

I died! The class killed me. I was sucking wind. I promise you I ran 4 miles a day 4-6 days a week. But did I make the time to cycle? NOPE, no siree bob I did not. So, after 50 minutes of fantastic music, great eye candy and amazing cheer crowd energy I peeled my sweaty booty off the bike seat. I made my legs at least get me off the “saddle” and I managed to make my way into the glorious locker room showers and take way too long of a shower for any Californian aware of the drought.

I obviously survived. “The class killed me”  was more of the state of being. A mindful condescending look. That internal argument we have after we stay up too late watching “House of Cards” before work the next day. You knew you would be tired but “that tired”? Really! Oh to be 21 again. I  was catatonic most of the day and ate my weight in plant based food that night. Beating myself up for not making cycling class a priority.  Then I woke up and crossed that off my list.

I know longer was preparing for an event. I obviously didn’t care about cycling as much as running. I had hoped that practicing for the event would give me a reason to get on a cycling kick. To have something other than running be a cardio option. But I didn’t really enjoy it (if you do that is so freaking awesome by the way. This is not a knock cycling blog). Why on earth was I forcing myself to do something I didn’t want to do every week?  Seeing this goal/to do item just made me feel bad. I felt like I wasn’t living up to my goals. Also, and most importantly just because we do something once doesn’t me we want or have to do it again. So, it’s absolutely ok to have enjoyed the moment and move on to the next.

I crossed it off! Sharpied right through it. I took my 2015 goals out and check of Cycle for Survival. Then went into my calendar to list and took off “cycle 2x/ week”.  Take a look at your lists. Do any of the excuses/thoughts/frustrations below sound familiar?

  1. After several months its no longer a priority or excitement.
  2. It didn’t light your fire.
  3. You don’t feel good about yourself seeing it there day after day–in fact it feels like a chore.
  4. You’ve asked yourself Why? Why am I avoiding this goal?

That last reason I want to repeat for you. I asked myself Why? Self, why do you put off scheduling a cycling class? Self, why do you find time for everything else including extra work but not this? Self, why do you have this as a goal?

You can do this too! Try it. Look at the goals you have. Look at your to do lists. Why are those items on there? How did they get there? Did you put them there? Did someone say you should do something?  So you put it on your lists. Maybe it sounded good at the time?

It’s absolutely ok to leave a goal or task on your list. Just have a good reason why you are leaving it there. If you find yourself making excuse after excuse, re-evaluate the item. What would it take for you to get it done? Do that! Or don’t. But stop torturing yourself over what you’re putting off.

I was putting off cycling because while I LOVE the event (seriously an amazing cause) I dislike going regularly to class. I much prefer to spend my cardio time with my run buddy. We get to talk about our day, what we like, don’t like, dating and goals and best part end with an awesome iced coffee. I can’t do any of that in cycling class. Also, if I am really really honest. I like the sound of when people say they are going to class. I liked the idea of being one of those people. But, truth be told: it really isn’t me.

We are not failures for not achieving the tasks or goals we set for ourselves. We are being honest with ourselves and rocking our bliss. Not someone else’s or what we think we should do because it sounds good. Sometimes we set goals and then we grow out of them. Luckily we write goals on paper, not in stone. You can change them as needed.

Grab your lists and goals and ask yourself Why are some of these taking so long? Do I really want to achieve these?

Tell us what you’re working on. What you’re tossing out and what you’ve crossed off!

Xx~LL

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