Next time. Tomorrow. Maybe Later. Or, how to stop avoiding your goals!

Here at Live ClareLesley we love goals and lists. That’s actually an understatement. We at Live ClareLesley LIVE for goals, and believe lists help you stay organized.

I have to admit something to you readers. I have some things on my lists that have never left. Haven’t even come close to even doing the first step towards crossing them off. In fact, a couple I thought about crossing off because I didn’t want to look at them anymore and I couldn’t see a time in my future where I would be able to tackle them.

For example, I had on my November to do list “spin class 2x a week to prepare for “Cycle for Survival“. I went one time in November. Put it on the December list….ran 6 days a week but never went to class. In January, I even told my Man “I must go twice a week!”  I had 4 weeks to prepare. I looked at two group classes schedules and never attended. I can’t believe I’m admitting this, one day I even was at the gym, and a class was about to start at 12pm.  BUT I decided to go for a run instead. My February cycling event came around, and wouldn’t you know I had only been two one class in 4 months. Don’t even feel sorry for me…I did it to myself.

I died! The class killed me. I was sucking wind. I promise you I ran 4 miles a day 4-6 days a week. But did I make the time to cycle? NOPE, no siree bob I did not. So, after 50 minutes of fantastic music, great eye candy and amazing cheer crowd energy I peeled my sweaty booty off the bike seat. I made my legs at least get me off the “saddle” and I managed to make my way into the glorious locker room showers and take way too long of a shower for any Californian aware of the drought.

I obviously survived. “The class killed me”  was more of the state of being. A mindful condescending look. That internal argument we have after we stay up too late watching “House of Cards” before work the next day. You knew you would be tired but “that tired”? Really! Oh to be 21 again. I  was catatonic most of the day and ate my weight in plant based food that night. Beating myself up for not making cycling class a priority.  Then I woke up and crossed that off my list.

I know longer was preparing for an event. I obviously didn’t care about cycling as much as running. I had hoped that practicing for the event would give me a reason to get on a cycling kick. To have something other than running be a cardio option. But I didn’t really enjoy it (if you do that is so freaking awesome by the way. This is not a knock cycling blog). Why on earth was I forcing myself to do something I didn’t want to do every week?  Seeing this goal/to do item just made me feel bad. I felt like I wasn’t living up to my goals. Also, and most importantly just because we do something once doesn’t me we want or have to do it again. So, it’s absolutely ok to have enjoyed the moment and move on to the next.

I crossed it off! Sharpied right through it. I took my 2015 goals out and check of Cycle for Survival. Then went into my calendar to list and took off “cycle 2x/ week”.  Take a look at your lists. Do any of the excuses/thoughts/frustrations below sound familiar?

  1. After several months its no longer a priority or excitement.
  2. It didn’t light your fire.
  3. You don’t feel good about yourself seeing it there day after day–in fact it feels like a chore.
  4. You’ve asked yourself Why? Why am I avoiding this goal?

That last reason I want to repeat for you. I asked myself Why? Self, why do you put off scheduling a cycling class? Self, why do you find time for everything else including extra work but not this? Self, why do you have this as a goal?

You can do this too! Try it. Look at the goals you have. Look at your to do lists. Why are those items on there? How did they get there? Did you put them there? Did someone say you should do something?  So you put it on your lists. Maybe it sounded good at the time?

It’s absolutely ok to leave a goal or task on your list. Just have a good reason why you are leaving it there. If you find yourself making excuse after excuse, re-evaluate the item. What would it take for you to get it done? Do that! Or don’t. But stop torturing yourself over what you’re putting off.

I was putting off cycling because while I LOVE the event (seriously an amazing cause) I dislike going regularly to class. I much prefer to spend my cardio time with my run buddy. We get to talk about our day, what we like, don’t like, dating and goals and best part end with an awesome iced coffee. I can’t do any of that in cycling class. Also, if I am really really honest. I like the sound of when people say they are going to class. I liked the idea of being one of those people. But, truth be told: it really isn’t me.

We are not failures for not achieving the tasks or goals we set for ourselves. We are being honest with ourselves and rocking our bliss. Not someone else’s or what we think we should do because it sounds good. Sometimes we set goals and then we grow out of them. Luckily we write goals on paper, not in stone. You can change them as needed.

Grab your lists and goals and ask yourself Why are some of these taking so long? Do I really want to achieve these?

Tell us what you’re working on. What you’re tossing out and what you’ve crossed off!

Xx~LL

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Love the Skin You’re In 

I get it! Working out is hard. Some days are easier than others. Some days you have to drag yourself to the gym or out the door for a walk. Some days you want to throw in the towel and eat a bucket of ice cream and binge watch House of Cards. Stop! Put the spoon down. Watch an episode of HOC, not the entire season. Save some for later and get moving. Why? Because you’ll feel better.

Yes, some days are tougher than others but move anyways. If you don’t it’ll just be harder the next day. You’ll just be putting off your health. It’s a fact you rest, you rust. Move it or lose it. This year I set out to “Love the Skin I’m In”. As I wrote about in Desires,  I started out setting all my goals as Desires instead.  At the end of 2014, I decided how I wanted to feel this year. The decision I made: I want to love every inch of me. Part of that decision is feeling strong and healthy. Working out is a huge part of this desire. However, some days my alarm goes off and I have no idea what day it is or why I’m getting up. I have to fall out of bed, away from my snooze button, so that I get out the door. I may drag my feet to the corner to meet my exercise buddy for our run, but 33-35min later I’m thrilled I did. Iced coffee in hand, walking home, I’m ready to take on the day!

Since the first I’ve been holding myself accountable to difference fitness modalities. I did thirty-three days of yoga at the beginning of the year. Committed to running four times a week, Pilates three times a week, and a session with my trainer. Yes, it sounds like a lot but it’s not bad. My workouts are so important in achieving my desire that they are in my calendar already.  I schedule everything else around it. After all, not only is it good for my health but it’s key to helping me to love the skin I’m in.

I so proud and blessed to say that it’s still the beginning of the year and everyday I love the skin I’m in more and more. I’m challenging my body. I’m stronger I look and feel better. I feel sexy. All because I set a goal/desire and took action towards it. As a Pilates instructor I know so many of you hate the gym, don’t like to workout. Are super busy. I hate to break it to you. You get one body. That’s it! One. You’re in it! Would you rather drive around a clunker that has squealing breaks or bad alignment? Yeah, I didn’t think so. I urge you to find a workout that makes you happy. Challenges you from your soul, outwards.

Need an inspirational workout? Check out Sean Hayes doing his moving for the day. What? You don’t have a trampoline in your home? Here are some easy tips to get your body moving and have fun while doing it:

  1. Grab a workout buddy: Ideally someone who won’t cancel on you. Someone who wants to even work harder than you a little to hold you accountable.
  2. Join a gym, yoga studio, cycling studio: having to pay for a membership puts value on it and makes it harder to just do nothing. Similar to the workout buddy the membership becomes your monetary accountability partner.
  3. Check out local teams or meetup groups for fitness and join groups or sports teams.

No funds. No gym. NO EXCUSES! You think I am going to let you work, eat, sleep and repeat? No way. You’re too awesome for that. Besides, you rest you rust! Seriously. When I think about rust I remember this old wheelbarrow out in the back yard where I grew up. Do you really want to become and old wheelbarrow? Yeah, I didn’t think so.

  1. Download an app, join an online workout site: Pact is working for Clare. I love PilatesAnytime.com, yogaglo.com and the dailyburn.com or popsugar.com or just google! Google know’s everything and can help you find something that moves you.
  2. Start small and add in as needed. If you have not had a regular fitness routine pick something you like and try to do it a couple times this week. As you get used to adding things to the calendar add more movement. Slowly progressing into the schedule you need to hit the goals you have. Go on, get up and shake a tail feather and love the skin your in.

What’s your favorite way to workout? I love Pilates Yoga and Running.  Leave us a comment and let us know how you plan to Love the Skin You’re In!

Xx~LL

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