Thankful Thursday

Yes, we know it’s Wednesday! But, we want you to enjoy these grateful moments before the holiday.

Each week we encourage you to tune in, join the discussion and pass on your own thankful thoughts!


We are thankful for friends and family far and wide.  We are thankful for the blood relations that drive us crazy, and the urban families we have created to make us sane.

We are thankful for tables full of food, and that we are not hungry, and we can help those who are.

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If you started today…

I recently was coaching a girl who absolutely loves her part-time gig. It’s a really part-time gig and it might be more appropriate to call it a passion project. Call it whatever you want but she freaking loves it and wishes it were her full-time job. This is where I come in. I am all about helping people rock what they love for a living.

You might be sitting there thinking she should just go for it. You wouldn’t be alone in that either. Of course that’s what I want her to do it. To just go for it! But, the truth is aside from the logistics there are often obstacles we put in our own way that keep us from doing what we love for a living.

  1. There are no short cuts! Stop trying to figure out a way to make something happen as quickly as it can and find that way to do it correctly. She has some of the education she needs to do her passion but not enough to make a living off of it. She could continue to do things the way she is but she will not get as far as she wants. At some point she is going to have to go back and do it the right way. That someday might as well be now.
  2. Money, time and other excuses: Sure doing something you want to do might take more money, more education, more time and more of something you think you don’t have. Realize that these are just excuses for why you are not doing what you need to be doing. It’s fear based too. You know what’s behind door number one. You are doing it. You may hate it but it’s safe. Door number 2 is full of unknown and fear of the ‘what if’s’. Ask yourself a bunch of “how” questions instead. How can I make this happen? How can I get the education I need? How….
  3. What if game: Instead of playing it with fear in mind play it with excitement. What if you did the things you needed to do to do the thing you want? What if it works out? What if you had all that you needed to rock your world? Isn’t that exciting?! Now, go back to your “how” game and ditch the excuses once and for all.
  4. Ask for help: Seriously, you are your own worst enemy. So, maybe asking yourself for advice on the matter is not the best thing. Ask someone who is doing the thing  you want to be doing for advice. You may not like what you hear but at least you’ll have a better basis to go off of.
  5. Do the thing! Seriously, what is the worst that is going to happen? It doesn’t workout? Ok, at least you tried. But, I bet it does workout because its the thing you most want in life. It’s the thing that makes you happy. If it doesn’t workout that’s part of the journey too.

My client is busy putting the dates she needs to take off in 2017 in her calendar. She’s cutting back on her groceries and other bills that she can and she’s asking for some help from others. If she goes along with the plan in one year she’ll already be doing the thing she wants to do for a living! Time is already flying we might as well take advantage of it and get started today!

xx~LL

Failure is what makes the goal achievement worth the most

Many times people stop their goal pursuits because they’re afraid to fail!  To me, that is one of the silliest reasons.  We all know, from extensive experience, that the failures along the way were just things that were not meant to be.  They were not going to serve us, and therefore they fell by the wayside.  They were markers to put us back on the right path and focus on what really matters.  AND most importantly, they make the achievement that much greater.  When we get to the top of the mountain and look around to enjoy the view, the slips and foot falls along the way made the view THAT MUCH GREATER.

So, why not fail?  Why not make all the mistakes?  Why not make all the slips and foot falls.  Visualize the view from the top, and take it one step at a time.  If you really want this, you’ll get there eventually.

We believe in you!

xx ~LL

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Having goals trouble–map it out!

Sometimes its hard to get focused on goals because the one you have in mind is overwhelming because it seems like it is too big or lots of steps.  However, if you sit down and write it all out, acknowelge all of the steps, it really isn’t as gregorious as you imagine.

Here is a blog on goal mapping and here is another on making lists… both will help you in achieving perspective through writing your needs and ideas out.

The main thing is to keep moving forward with those goals, even small steps.  A little each day will help you get to the main goal!

–Clare

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Don’t let excuses get in the way of your goals

In our pursuit to reexamine our 2016 goals, we see many of the choices we have made and we use excuses to get around it.   Goals are easy to set, and easy to meet with excuses, instead of actions.  However, if you take small steps toward your goals each day, you’ll actually find those small steps easier than making a new excuse or trying to live through the excuse you already made.

Excuses are never a positive thing. We simply need to get out of our own way to be able to move forward.

Focus on the goals, not the excuses!

–LL

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Revisit your 2016 goals–avoid perfection!

As the summer turns the corner into fall, we all tend to reflect. At the beginning of summer we just want to get out and play, and then the middle of summer we just want it to either slow down so we have more time, or speed up so we can get out of the heat!  But when the air starts to crisp, and we start to settle in for the cooler months ahead, we look back and wonder if we were as successful in this year as we wanted to be.  Its like a second new year, as we look forward into fall and winter.

2016 has been a year of goal examination here at Live ClareLesley–as we have tried to keep up with our goals and keep you informed.  As we hit an unofficial new year, we would love for you to examine what your goals were this year, and if you’ve completed them with ease, or if you’ve yet to finish what you started!

This inward focus on your goals is meant to be a positive reflection–there is always time to start again, or refocus if you weren’t getting the results you originally desired.  Remember that Perfection is a continually receeding line, like the horizon, and you can only be who you are!  Here is a reminder on how to kick the perfection focus and kick yourself back into your 2016 goals!

–Clare

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Celebrating National Waffle and Peach Pie Day

I’ll admit this is a crazy one… but who doesn’t love a sweet treat?  National Waffle Day made me think of not only the actual waffle, but the idea of “waffling” of sitting at a cross roads and making a decision.  I’ve been at may cross roads.  Many took me in a great direction that lead me to where I am, and made me a stronger, better person.  Some left me bruised and hurting–not unlike a peach.  It reminds me of the movie Sweet Home Alabama when the woman playing Reece Witherspoon’s mom is making something with peaches or maybe it was plums, and she says that it is the bruised ones that make the best jam.  Its true… bruised or not–once a decision is made, you’re better for having made it, like I said in my blog about Greatest Mistakes.  Go be sweet to someone!

And if you’re “waffling” over something…. go ahead, take chance and a leap!

LL

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Celebrating National Love Your Feet Day

HA!  This one made me laugh… Its also National Thrift Shop Day, but the feet thing… I’ll admit it: at first I thought “EW!  Why a whole day to celebrate feet?!?”  And I’m not even squeamish  about feet… but then I thought–you know, some people love feet, and some people can’t stand to look at or even think about feet…

This made me liken this thought to that about weight –I’ve been dealing with weight issues my entire life, but I like to eat, and coming from German and Norwegian stock–I’m f*cked.  So, I gave in and bought fat shorts–if you missed that goals blog, you can laugh with me here!

I then went to write a blog about just enjoying the things you enjoy.  For me, its coffee.  But ultimately, its not just about loving your feet–its loving your whole self for exactly who you are in this moment, you beautiful snowflake!  Revisit one of my all time favorites about loving the skin you’re in right now.

Clare

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Celebrating Grab Some Nuts Day

If there is one thing we’re TOTALLY about here at LCL its grabbing life by the “nuts” and running with it!

I’m all about making goals and charging forward with them.  Every January I write a blog about making Goals instead of resolutions–and this year Clare and I have been posting weekly about our progress–If you’ve not been following, mine are posted Monday, and Clare’s are on Fridays.  Sign up with us to keep updated!

I’m all about finding the hurdle and jumping over it.  In fact in my blog Get In My Way, I EMBRACE IT!  Go read, or re-read it  and #grabsomenuts

–LL

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Life is too short for bad coffee

If you’ve been reading my goals posts, you’ll know that I’m struggling with my brain not liking my waist–I mean I’m human, so who among us does like our bodies more than three days in a row?

So I’m sitting here this morning, a lovely sunny summer Sunday in NYC, and enjoying my coffee.  There is nowhere I have to be today, I do have a few obligations (phone calls), and errands, but nowhere I have to be.  And I’m taking a lovely sip of my French pressed coffee and as I swallow, I’m realizing for the first time in weeks, I’m actually enjoying my coffee.  Its warmth, its nuttyness, its robust but creamy taste; as the warm and and the caffeine hit my system, I’m slowly awakening into, and becoming a part of the world again.  I’m drinking it out of one of my seven favorite mugs–If you’re an original follower you might remember that I’ve moved six times in three years–so I’ve dwindled down my coffee mug collection, so I have exactly the number of cups (that I LOVE) for the number of days in the week.  I’m drinking out of this beautiful oversized bone china tea cup–I can’t get away from working for three years in a fine china shop–all of my dishes HAVE to be quality!  I’d decided to enjoy my coffee and read a little (my roommate loaned me her copy of Warrior Goddess Training to assist my brain realignment with my body issues) as the sun and the breeze stream into my NYC apartment, and the coffee is bringing me into life and bliss, I’m realizing: this cup of coffee is amazing, and life is too short to drink crappy coffee.


Let me back up a little, and bring you to the pinnacle of why this realization is important.  For the past six weeks or so, I’ve been trying to drink alternative coffee.  As in, I like my coffee lightish and sweetish.  I don’t need it to taste like a Werther’s Original, but I don’t need to suck on coffee grounds, either.  The easy way to deal with this is to buy those presweetened flavored creamers.  Which have a lot of sugar.  I’ve been drinking these for years…. but I decided that a good way to cut my sugar intake was to take the flavored cream out of my life.  So I did.  I tried almond milk.  I tried unsweetened almond milk.  I tried cashew milk.  I tried sugar alternatives.  I tried just milk.  I was so unhappy–I tried to make alternative coffee work… but it just wasn’t the same.  Yeah, yeah, first world problems, I totally know… but its a fine line, isn’t it–the difference between taking care of one’s self well, and what we’ve deemed as a first world problem.  I mean, its one thing to complain about creamer when,  I realize, there are people starving in some countries, and I sit here and complain about finding a creamer that tastes good, but won’t add five pounds to my waist whenever I have a serving.  But this is about me taking care of myself.  Which is also a fine line.  When do we treat ourselves well, or when do we “take care of ourselves”.  


I’ve never been starving–I’ve had an extremely low or a negative amount in my bank account many times.  I’ve lived off of, and stretched food because of poor choices.  However, I also have gone the other direction and found myself eating just to try to make myself happy (aka have been extremely overweight because I was eating because I was depressed).

I’m not the most regimented of people–diets just don’t work for me… I find I become very irritable (aka an extreme bitch) and they never have anywhere close to the results I want (my stomach isn’t much flatter, and my thighs didn’t shrink).  However, I am good at moderation–I’ll happily have a handful of chips and stop.  Or one serving of ice cream.  I’ll have the yummy treat, but then be done.

As I get older, I’m seeing my metabolism slow.  I’m witnessing that 10 extra pounds of happiness each decade.  I’m probably more healthy than I’ve ever been, as living in New York makes me move and climb and walk much more than I’ve ever done in my life.  And yes, I actually go back and re-read my own blog on loving the skin I’m in now every three months or so.  But the voices in my head, will loudly remind me that I’m not as skinny as I could and hope to be.  Most of the time, I can tell those voices that I’m beautiful no matter what size I am.  Like Warrior Goddess Training, and other books like it I’ve read, tell me that its the size in the person not the size OF the person that matters.  In other words, confidence is what is beautiful/sexy/attractive.  Shape and size are all just perspective.


So back to my coffee–I’m reminded to return from my tangents to the original thought that started this blog because I just got myself a refill.  My mom was in town visiting me last week, and I bought flavored creamer for her–as I was finishing out my round of caramel flavored almond milk–still not a winner.  This delicious Hazelnut International Delight creamer was left over… and so coming from a “don’t waste food” home, I’m drinking it.  And for the first time in weeks, I’m enjoying the coffee.  The interesting thing is that it was too sweet and creamy on the first sip, so I watered it down with milk–and ultimately making it a little healthier.  A little.

Maybe my enjoyment comes from the fact that I’m drinking something I really like. Maybe my enjoyment comes from the fact that two weeks ago, I threw up my arms, went out and bought fat shorts and decided not to give a fuck about my weight.  Maybe the realization comes from the conversation I had with my roommate last night about “overweight” being the line of discomfort that you cross, and not the size of your clothing.  Maybe it comes from the price of happiness is worth wearing a size larger shorts this summer (and the understanding that the last two summers I was doing a lot of hiking and walking for my jobs, so I was more active albeit a smaller waist size). Maybe its something entirely different.  But this morning, in my one size larger shorts, I’m enjoying this cup of coffee and not caring about anything else.  And that’s the point of living, isn’t it–to deal with the ups and downs, and to enjoy and revel in as many moments of goodness as you can.

I’m going to finish this cup of coffee.  Let me know what you like to enjoy and revel in!

–Clare